Dramatically limit the range of failures which can cause duplicate mail

Summary:
Ref T8574. Currently, failures during mail body construction, feed publishing, or search indexing could cause us to retry the publishing task and potentially send duplicate mail.

Instead, build (but do not send) the mail first, then send all the mail at the very end.

This isn't completley perfect, but should make it enormously harder for duplicate mail to be generated.

Test Plan: Sent some mail, ran the daemons, saw it show up normally in the outbound queue.

Reviewers: btrahan

Reviewed By: btrahan

Subscribers: epriestley

Maniphest Tasks: T8574

Differential Revision: https://secure.phabricator.com/D13320