Ref T2374. Fixes T5988.

Keep track of what's been killed and not been killed, and surface that maybe you need sudo if things don't get killed with --force

...also basically make this force thing work. I managed to convinced myself stuff was getting killed with --force when it mostly wasn't. Make sure the --force parameter gets pushed as low as it needs to go to have things get killed.

• sudo ./bin/phd restart
• rm -rf /var/tmp/phd/pid/*
• ./bin/phd stop --> get warning about rogue daemons
• ./bin/phd stop X --> get warning about no running daemons
• ./bin/phd stop --force --> get warning about not being able to kill daemons
• sudo ./bin/phd stop --force --> kill daemons successfully